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1. Healing Homosexuality: Meanings and Causes Order Here

The underlying meaning and causes of homosexuality are presented. The hidden meanings behind same-sex attractions are described:

  • Need for same-sex parent's love

  • Need for gender identification

  • Fear of intimacy with the opposite sex.

The ten basic causes are detailed:

  • Heredity

  • Temperament

  • Hetero-emotional wounds

  • Homo-emotional wounds

  • Family dynamics / sibling wounds

  • Body image wounds

  • Peer wounds (Homo-social wounds)

  • Sexual abuse

  • Cultural wounds

  • Intrauterine influences and other factors

This is an excellent introduction for anyone who wishes to understand the causes of same-sex attractions.

 

2. Healing Homosexuality: Process of Healing: Transitioning from Homosexual to Heterosexual Order Here

This presentation describes the process of change from a homosexual to a heterosexual orientation. A complete plan for healing is detailed in a four-stage model of recovery. The four stages are:

  • Transitioning (Behavioral Therapy)

  • Grounding (Cognitive Therapy)

  • Healing homo-emotional wounds (Psychodynamic Therapy)

  • Healing hetero-emotional wounds (Psychodynamic Therapy)

This program has helped many men, women and adolescents come out of homosexuality.

 

3. Healing Homosexuality: Tools and Techniques Order Here

This presentation is a step-by-step guide to successfully work through each stage of recovery.   Practical tools and techniques are explained in detail.  A list of books and workbooks are recommended.  Each stage of recovery is divided into the four aspects of healing:  1) emotional, 2) mental, 3) physical and 4) spiritual.  Concrete methods are described for a complete plan of healing from homosexual to heterosexual.

 

4. Affirmations and Meditations Order Here

This tape consists of several wonderful affirmations and meditations to use each day in accomplishing and achieving your desires and dreams. The affirmations and meditations include such topics as healing gender identity, building self-confidence, healing relationships, and achieving your goals.

 

5. Healing Your Inner Child and Memory Healing Order Here

Healing Your Inner Child is a meditation on rediscovering and liberating your inner child, true self. The concept of "inner child" is explained.
Memory Healing is about resolving painful experiences of the past and present through the use of guided imagery.

 


V I D E O  T A P ES  o r  D V Ds

Coming Out Straight Order Here

This presentation contains the following information:

  • Meaning and Causes of Homosexuality

  • Process of Healing from Gay to Straight

  • Current Statistics and Research on Homosexuality

  • Positive Ways to Promote Change in Our Communities

This is an excellent introduction about same-sex attractions. It may be used in schools, universities, religious organizations, and mental health agencies.

 


B O O K S

 

Coming Out Straight:
Understanding and Healing Homosexuality

Hardbound and 2nd Edition Paperback (Jan 2006)
 

In simple language, Coming Out Straight  presents the basic causes of same-sex attractions, a clear model of recovery, suggestions for family and friends, and stories of individuals who made the change. The book has three parts: In Part I, the author shares his own story and the root causes of same-sex attractions. Part II presents a four-stage model of recovery and healing. Part III offers suggestions for family and friends.

Coming Out Straight is available in German. 
To order a copy in German, please click on
www.brunnen-verlag.de

Coming Out Straight is available in Polish.
To order a copy in Polish, please click on
www.odwaga.oaza.org.pl
and then click on Publikacje.             

Coming Out Straight is available in Spanish. Click here to go to our online store to purchase it.

Part I: Understanding

  1. My Story: Coming Out Straight

  2. Definitions & Causes of Same-Sex Attractions

  3. Steve 

Part II: Healing

  1. Process of Healing: Four Stages of Recovery

  2. Christian

  3. Therapeutic Tools and Techniques

  4. Mark 

  5. Anger: Accessing Personal Power

  6. Joseph

  7. Touch: The Need for Bonding and Attachment 

  8. Bonnie

  9. Mentoring: Restoring Love

  10. Slade 

Part III: Compassion

  1. Guidance for

  2. A Final Thought

"In this self-help book, ex-gay psychotherapist Cohen (the author of Alfie's Home, a children's book about a sexually abused boy) writes for gays and lesbians who want to transition to heterosexuality. His comprehensive, well-written, well-organized, and heavily referenced guide views homosexuality as a symptom of disrupted affiliation with the same-sex parent and incomplete feelings of maleness/femaleness, building on the theories of Joseph Nicolosi and Elizabeth Moberly. Cohen's approach is sympathetic and rational and leans mostly on psychosocial factors, but he also assumes nondenominational religious affiliation."

The Library Journal, July 2001

"In this book, Richard Cohen shares his compelling personal story in which he journeys from homosexuality to a new life as husband and father. The transition has offered him valuable insights into the nature and healing of same-sex attractions."

Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, Author, Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality,  President, National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality

"In the midst of controversy over homosexuality, Coming Out Straight presents a clear understanding of the causes and healing of same-sex attractions. This is an invaluable resource for the mental health professional, clergy, and those who struggle themselves."


Dr. Jeffrey Satinover
Author, Homosexuality and the Politics of Truth

"I strongly recommend Coming Out Straight for both homosexuals and heterosexuals. It is compassionately written with clarity and precision for those wishing to gain a deeper insight into the dynamics of homosexuality and for those struggling to change."

Rabbi Samuel Rosenburg, LCSW, Clinical Director, JONAH (Jews Offering New Alternatives to Homosexuality)

"Coming Out Straight is a lifesaving book for our families. It is a must read for those who need to learn to love those who deal with same-sex attractions." 

Regina Griggs, Executive Director, PFOX (Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays and Gays)

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Gay Children, Straight Parents:
A Plan For Family Healing

InterVarsity Press
Release Date: October 2007
Cost: $15
Special Introductory Price: $12

If you are a parent, family member or friend looking for guidance and wise counsel about how to improve your relationship with your loved one who experiences same-sex attraction (SSA), Cohen has written this book for you. Gay Children, Straight Parents is authored by a trained psychotherapist who was once gay and has experienced the trials and transformation he writes about. Over the past 17 years, Cohen has helped hundreds of parents, family members and friends who have loved ones dealing with SSA. This important book describes a powerful and effective 12-stage plan to create more loving and intimate relationships within the family and community. In this book, parents share wonderful stories of restored relationships and family healing as they help their SSA sons and daughters realize their heterosexual potential.

Gay Children, Straight Parents is a gift for the entire family, as well as for anyone who wishes to understand how to love SSA men and women. Pastors, priests, rabbis and ministry leaders will find this an invaluable resource to help in their ministry work.

 

Chapter Outline

Section One: Personal Healing
Step One: Take Care of Yourself
Step Two: Do Your Own Work
Step Three: Experience God's Love

Section Two: Relational Healing
Step Four: Investigate the Causes of SSA
Step Five: Utilize Effective Communication Skills
Step Six: Make Things Right Between You and Your SSA Child
Step Seven: Discover Your Child's Love Language and Participate in Their Interests
Step Eight: Same-Sex Parent Display Appropriate Physical Affection
Step Nine: Opposite-Sex Parent Take Two Steps Back

Section Three: Community Healing
Step Ten: Create a Warm and Welcoming Environment in Your Home, Place of Worship and Community
Step Eleven: Boyfriends, Girlfriends, Sleepovers and Ceremonies
Step Twelve: Find Mentors and Mentor Others

Endorsements for Gay Children, Straight Parents

"Richard is movingly candid about the brokenness in his own family life, and he's not afraid to get down in the trenches and cry, mourn and laugh with everyone else who struggles. This book offers sound practical advice for healing family relationships."

—Joseph Nicolosi, author of Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality and Preventing Homosexuality: A Parent's Guide

"Words cannot express the gratitude that we feel in our hearts for the incredible enlightenment that we have received from Gay Children, Straight Parents. This book has changed the life of our family and helped our daughter heal from same-sex attractions. Words can never express the depth of our gratitude."

—Michael & Linda

"This book helped us go from shock and disbelief to an understanding of what happened to our son who experiences same-sex attractions. It showed us how to develop an action plan to help heal the wounds of his heart. This sensitive, intelligent man is now, with his dad's love and encouragement, learning to take the necessary steps into manhood. The personal stories of change throughout the book gave us real hope. We feel confident about our son's future."

—Bob & Sue

"I enthusiastically recommend Gay Children, Straight Parents as a must-read for every parent facing the difficult discovery of their child's homosexuality. Richard's compassionate approach relieves the stigma and shame often associated with a loved-one's homosexual struggle. Whether a parent has just found out or is years into their journey with their gay son or daughter, they will glean understanding, support, guidance and encouragement in their ongoing efforts to love their child well."

—Janelle M. Hallman, M.A., LPC

"A helpful resource for parents who are intentional about loving their children well."

—Katherine M. Allen, LPC and director, Sought Out, Inc.

"It is with gratitude to Richard for filling so many voids in the world of healing same-sex attraction, and for his continuing leadership and distinctive insights, that I highly recommend this long-awaited text."

—Arthur Goldberg, codirector, JONAH, and president, PATH

"We all want the best for our children. Please read this book and follow Richard's suggestions for building a healthy parent-child relationship, one based on unconditional love and mutual respect."

Regina Griggs, national director, PFOX


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Alfie's Home

Alfie's Home is the story of a boy who struggles with homosexuality well into his teenage years, then transitions naturally into heterosexuality after finding help and experiencing love in his family.
This is the first resource of its kind for parents, teachers, students, counselors, clergy and anyone interested in helping children and adults heal their sexual identity.


 

An Amazon.com reader from Pennsylvania, USA ,
November 1, 1998
"Alfie's Home" a true perspective of the homosexual struggle
I found "Alfie's Home" an excellent book and a wonderful resource for anyone who deals with children. I believe it accurately shows some of the roots of homosexuality and how there can be healing for those in this painful situation. As someone who has experienced that healing myself, I rejoice to see the voice of the ex-gay in a book for families. Thank you, Richard Cohen.

An Amazon.com reader from USA , November 1, 1998
At long last....A Biblical view
This book is a long awaited answer to such books as Heather Has Two Mommies. This book paints a true and accurate picture of the struggle of a child with family issues. Written by someone who has "been there" and knows the power of healing, this book is a MUST read for the person who wants all the information that is available. I strongly recommend this book.

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Practical Exercises For Men In Recovery Of Same-Sex Attraction (SSA)

This new workbook is designed to assist men healing from unwanted same-sex attraction (SSA). The person in recovery may share these exercises/assignments with his therapist, minister/rabbi, mentor, friend or support group members. It contains over 80 practical exercises that address every aspect of the healing process:

- Abuse

- Anger

- Behavioral changes

- Cognitive restructuring

- Feelings

- Same-sex wounds

- Opposite-sex wounds

- Sexuality

- Family issues

 

At last, a practical and therapeutic workbook that will bless everyone's journey into manhood. This is an excellent resource for individuals and groups.

 
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